I have an 1866 edition of “Enquire Within Upon Everything”.
It’s not in great shape, but I love this book. It’s chock full of gems of etiquette, advice and recipes.
An example on how to dress:
What to do when visiting:
I seem to remember it also says that visiting cards should be placed on a tray presented by the house servant (although I couldn’t find that particular passage). I inherited a couple of visiting cards from the period – just a name and address.
Some advice for young ladies:
(continued) “If you have good teeth, do not laugh for the purpose of showing them. vi. If you have bad ones, do not laugh less than the occasion may justify. vii If you have pretty hands and arms, there can be no objection to your playing on the harp if you play well. viii. If they are disposed to be clumsy, work tapestry. ix. If you have a bad voice, rather speak in a low tone. x. If you have the finest voice in the world, never speak in a high tone. xi. If you dance well, dance but seldom. xii. If you dance ill, never dance at all. xiv. If you sing indifferently, hesitate not a moment when you are asked for few people are judges of singing, but every one is sensible of a desire to please. xv. If you would preserve beauty, rise early. xvi. If you would preserve esteem, be gentle. xvii. If you would obtain pwoer, be condescending. xviii. If you would live happily, endeavour to promote the happiness of others.”
There are ideas for recreation in the evening:
Health benefits of singing…
(Try singing this winter!)
There are odd little passages such as this one.
And of course, there are plenty of “receipts”.
Inside the book I found this handwritten recipe which has similarities to my mother and my grandmother’s writing, but I suspect belongs to someone a generation further back.
Also in the book was a later insertion.
Fascinating stuff, all of it.